I am so pregnant right now! Ugggghhhhh!!!! I never thought that I’d be the pregnant woman who wanted very little to do with training. But that doesn’t stop me from getting my new dimply ass to the gym almost daily. I complain often about my weight gain, and low energy, and I hear a lot of sympathetic responses like, “Enjoy your pregnancy girl. Don’t worry! Sit back, relax.” Although those comments come with good intentions, I just can’t sit back.
Staying strong is one of the hardest things you can do. It’s easy to give up. It’s easy to cave to your weaker emotions. It’s even easier to accept sympathy from others around you, and use it to justify taking the easier route. As humans, we will always look for justification in our choices. I’ve already heard a boatload of excuses as to why people are “taking time off” fitness during the covid lockdown.
• The gym is closed
• I don’t have time
• I don’t have the motivation
• I can’t get into Zoom
• I don’t have any equiptment at home
• I am depressed
The list goes on...
It has been extremely difficult to stay motivated during covid in the winter. Atleast in the summertime I had the outdoors to train safely outside with others, and soaking up that Vitamin D was good for my spirits. Winter is cold, dark, and lonely. Rather than losing weight, I am gaining weight. With the months quickly rolling by, and my belly growing, there’s going to be a baby boy in the next 12 weeks (give or take). Not to mention the world is in total chaos, businesses are closing down, and people are growing more and more impatient with the situation at hand as each day passes.
I have always been one to sympathize for those struggling, and I quickly offer advice that can help people climb out of ruts that come with poor lifestyle choices. Whether or not they choose to listen is totally up to them. We are ultimately responsible for our choices, and actions. That is why it is important to accept the changes around us regarding the pandemic, and take action to keep moving forward. We can let the pain of the unknown overtake our stronger selves, or we can sink into that “survival of the fittest” mentality to ensure that we remain strong with the goal of becoming stronger.
Survival of the fittest: the continued existence of organisms which are best adapted to their environment, with the extinction of others, as a concept in the Darwinian theory of evolution.
At the beginning of the pandemic back in March 2020, the world went into panic mode while my partner and I were soaking up the sun in Cancun. We had zero interest in buying into the sheer panic that was going on back home. Rumour had it that the world was fighting over toilet paper, and we chose to ignore it, and enjoy our vacation. Shit was hitting the fan, and we really didn’t understand the extent of it all until we came home. Once the vacation high wore off, and reality sunk in, we both stood strong, and knew that no matter what, we would get through it.
Months passed, and I had built my army of soldiers. We built it together. I have my partner who is like my Sargent, my protector, and safe zone. He reassured me in life, and showed me how easy it was for him to look world problems in the face, and show no fear. He inspires me to be stronger than I ever was.
I have my few close friends who live and breath the same beliefs. Our beliefs are to stick together, stay strong, train hard, and continue practising healthy lifestyle habits. This keeps our minds sharp, and allows us to feel confident in ourselves. We began to coach others around us to install similar beliefs and habits at the start of all of this. Boxing is part of our language, and we use it to build a team full of hope, community, and strength.
I can’t forget my family. No matter what rules are in play, we are way too close to be kept apart. At the end of the day, family is all you really have. There’s no way any of us are ever willing to turn our backs on one another.
Your army is the heart of your strength. If it is just you and yourself, you better have super human strength to fight. If you have a solid team who does nothing but build you up, you have a way better chance at surviving the uncertainties and hard times that the world is facing right now. And if you have a weak team that feeds off of negativity, and fear, then may God be your next source of guidance, because strength and positivity is a necessity at a time like this.
If you lack strength in your life, you are not alone. If you are wondering how to build on your strength, let me give you somewhere to begin.
Start a one week calendar that has one goal per day. Start out small. Example: Monday- Go to bed early Tuesday- Drink 5 bottles of water Wednesday- Have a healthy breakfast... etc
Get a notepad, and jot down three people you talk to the most, and create an honest list of how they improve your life.
Exercise for atleast 30 minutes a day, even if it’s as simple as setting a timer for 30 minutes, and walking around your house.
The key over time is to set constant goals, big or small. The smaller the better. Achievement is something humans crave in life. When we achieve something, we feel good. It helps build self confidence.
Army of strength:
Knowing your army is vital to your success in life. If you are surrounded by people who are tossing grenades in your direction, run! It is important to have self worth, and part of self worth is setting boundaries for your relationships and friendships. You need people who boost you up, motivate you, and bring genuine kindness to your life.
I can‘t say enough about exercise. It has been my saviour for many years. It’s where my clarity comes from. Our soul needs a strong vessel to dwell in. The stronger we are physically, the stronger we become mentally, and emotionally. I wouldn’t be half the woman I am today without the body I have spent years building. I aim to eat healthy, train hard, and keep toxins out of my system. The give back from these lifestyle choices is priceless.
I have a survival of the fittest mind frame. This comes from being a boxer. Without this mind frame, I will lose a big part of my strength. If I imagine the worst case scenario, I want to know that I am prepared. Although I believe weakness is a source for growth, and opportunity, I know that strength is what conquers all.
You have to be prepared for all that is evil in life while learning how to focus on the good. You can not bypass evil, no matter how hard you try, but don’t forget to stop and embrace the good that surrounds you. The goal is not to focus on the bad, but to have the confidence that if it comes your way, you have the tools to manage, and cope efficiently, and effectively.
Make yourself so fucking strong that no matter what smacks you in the face, you can be at your strongest to stand up to life’s challenges, or get back up when life knocks you down.